I know nothing about the courtship of a heterosexual relationship. Hell, I know nothing about the courtship of a homosexual relationship as it pertains to men. But I DO know about lesbians and their lack of courting. I don’t know if it is just
me but lesbians have a reputation of moving very fast (u-hauling on the second date) and while this is mostly not true (only the u-hauling part) it is still equally true. I know, that sounds crazy, oxymoronish maybe. But, they do (from what I’ve witnessed) move extremely fast sans the moving in part. But hell maybe by date five they may have moved in.
So, are other relationships like this? I mean, I understand the honeymoon phase is nice and should last a while but when that effortless relationship requires some effort will it still be appealing? Will that be a sign that maybe your relationship is falling apart? Relationships take work. And, you can be with someone forever and still not know them how you may think. People are evolving creatures. They change all the time. So can you be ready to lock down your life with someone you’ve only known for six months ?
I’ve asked this because I have witness via social media, and real life, lesbians getting into these relationships and before they’ve even made it to a year anniversary they are engaged and claiming someone else’s children (Lesbians LOVE claiming other peoples children). Now I will say this, I do not think you can put a timeline on love. Let me repeat that, I DO NOT THINK YOU CAN PUT A TIMELINE ON LOVE, however I do think that if you feel strongly about someone and a relationship and you think this could be it then why rush? I am in a relationship, happy and healthy. It requires effort but loving her is effortless. I do feel like she could be “THE ONE” but I have no intentions on rushing it. Why? These feelings are premature and I want to give them time to evolve and grow. Good things take time and I have no desire to rush it. I say this and honestly I’m hoping like hell to settle down soon but even if she were to ask me to marry her tomorrow several months shy of a year commitment, I would say yes but that engagement will linger well into a three year mark.
I’ve also noticed that lesbians do not take the time to nurture their feelings and they do not give time to put in the actual work in a relationship. Once it gets “hard” or once it becomes a burden they are ready to drop it and move onto the next honeymoon phase. So, I ask, what is this timeline that these lesbians are following? This question was mostly derived from a book (a horrible book might I add) that I am reading and also a blog post I saw where a couple has only been together a little over a year and are already married. In the book (which I may review at a later date because the amazon reviews are just not accurate) the main character Dena meets and falls for and mentally commits herself to women upon meeting them. Yes, I know, this is a book but dammit if there isn’t some truth in this.
So what has the fire under these lezzie’s asses? I’m curious because I need to know if they know something I do not. Thought I wish I was at a different point in my life and thought I yearn to be engaged, married and pregnant, I also know that no good is going to come out of rushing. So, I’m just dying to know how all these rushed relationships turn out.