I haven’t blogged much lately but I think, besides the fact that I haven’t had much to talk about, the 25 days of Christmas blogs really burned me out! Alas, a question came to mind that I want to discuss.
So, the way I see it, there are two types of people in relationships. The kind that believes in “do unto others how you would want them to do unto you ” and the kind that believes in “accepting that everyone won’t handle things as you do.” I will obviously have to explain what I mean.
I am the type 1, expect the same in return. I know expectations are a one way street in the direction of disappointment. But, I feel like in a relationship there are certain expectations. Hell, in life, there are certain expectations. If I can do something for my partner, with in reason, they should have no problem showing me the same courtesy. I’m not talking about anything dramatic, but if I can bring you dinner after a long day of work, you certainly can do the same for me every once in a while.
However, there are some people who just accept that your spouse may not respond the way you do. This theory won’t work for me, but I’m sure it does work for some people. This would make me feel like I’m in a one sided relationship. Like I am giving and giving. And the other person would participate in their own way, of course. But not necessarily in a way I receive it.
My best friend read The Five Love Language which I want to get around to reading. Because it basically tells you how people receive love.
Which type are you?
Until next time ….