Literally while I was sleep an idea came to me. I’ve decided to do series on the infamous “Girl Code” from my point of view. The Girl Code is a list of things women just know. Or, should know. I’ve been sitting on this topic for a while after a few comment exchanges and a post on Black Lesbian Love Lab (which you should obviously read). Is it ok for your friend to date your ex or vice versa?
Short answer: NO !!!!!
Long answer: I just always assumed that some people are off limits. And I get it, as a human, you naturally form attractions and bonds with people. In theory, exploring the bonds and attractions are natural. But this is just one of those things where, regardless of what you want to do, it’s a very bad idea. I’m not talking about a child hood friend that you don’t closely associate with, I’m talking about someone in your circle. Now, some people don’t see anything wrong with this. However, I don’t like leftover food and I definitely don’t like my friends leftovers.
I, in no way, want my friends to know about intimate details of my partner. I don’t want them to have any knowledge of how she is intimately. I don’t want to be in a situation where it is awkward for me to bring my significant over around my friends because there are beyond lustful looks and there is sexual tension or anything like that. Why would anyone want to be in that position?
This has happened to me SEVERAL times. The last time this happened to me, a close friend of mine started dating my girlfriend behind my back and to make matters worse, our mutual friends all knew and no one bothered to tell me! In fact, outside the fact that she was still my girlfriend, who was cheating on me with someone in my “close” circle of friends, no one even thought she was wrong. It was as if I was the crazy one. This was the most embarrassing thing in my life, I was young and I had pictures of my girlfriend on my Facebook (when I had one) and then suddenly my girlfriend is posting questionable pictures with my friend. I was hurt and mortified. THANK GOD FOR THE BLOCK OPTION ON FACEBOOK. I stopped talking to everyone at this point in time because I didn’t trust anyone, I was embarrassed and I was beyond hurt. Plus, real friend’s don’t watch that go down.
So, just don’t do it!
- Girl Code Rule 101 – Don’t date your friends ex
Until next time…